he always sleeps over when my dad is away
weve been friends for 6 years and our dads are best friends too. i just started dating my best guy friend chris, im 15 and hes 17. he is VERY experienced and has been with 12 girls. before we started dating, he was sleeping over like he always does and said “lets have sex” and i said “i want to wait till im in love” he said “i dont know about u but im in love”then he asked me to be his girlfriend. Now everything is normal except when we are making out he runs away after a few mins. i gave him a neck massage, he made a moaning noise and sprinted away. why is he suddenly turned off? i told him that if he really wanted to have sex i would and he said “its ok, its not all about sex with me” what does this mean? is he cheating on me? lately hes been doing random nice things for me, holding doors, making me breakfast, buying me things. but he hasnt slept over in 2 days. he always sleeps over when my dad is away cause i hate bein alone. whats going on with him?
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nes134 Replied on 15 Apr 2008 at 12:58 am #
maybe its not hes cheating on you.perhaps it was really LOVE.he didnt want 2 ruin u life before its time.he tooks good care of u-he made u breakfast, holding doors and allthose sweet things he’d done 4 u.u should be grateful that he wasnt dating u for granted.if he was dating u only for granted, then he wud have sex with u and dashed away.he might want 2 preserve the close relationship which both of ur dad have.he doesnt want 2 ruin it when he’s having sex with u.u should think positively that sex its not the only way to show love to sum1.to me avoiding sex wit ur partner till u are married to him is the greates part of love.if u r still confuse and unsatisfy, its good 4 both of u hav a chat together.
wendy Replied on 19 Apr 2008 at 9:03 pm #
ok so maybe he isnt cheating on u.but only really does love you.maybe u should try talking to him. i know how hard it can be but it really helps if u need to talk message me and we will ok
Brittany Replied on 20 Apr 2008 at 6:57 pm #
i would ask him, have a one on one chat with him
if he loves you like he says he does, he’ll come clean with whatever it is that is going on.
and the way he is being such a sweetheart is probably a very good sign.
confusedbymybaby Replied on 21 Apr 2008 at 1:24 pm #
yea u should be happy he is waiting 4 u ur really lucky
Samantha Replied on 25 Apr 2008 at 11:16 am #
Hehe, he loves you im guessing, its a good thing that hes running away from you instead of having sex with you because that means that he cares about you and he doesnt want to force you into anything. He might think you mean the world to him and he might want to be with you and thats why he doesnt want to upset you with having sex…sex is GREAT and all but you should wait and have it until your married, for many reasons.
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Just a girl in love Replied on 25 Apr 2008 at 1:42 pm #
nothing is wrong with him. he just doesnt want to bring sex into your relationship right now. trust me i know how this works. my boyfriend and i have been dating for almost 6 months now and he never mentions sex, except for the fast that he doesnt want to do it now. sex can sometimes complicate realtionships. sex shouldnt be a BIG part of any realtionship. just give it time. when the time comes to make love, it will be perfect because of the strong love you share between eachother
Michel Replied on 29 Apr 2008 at 6:25 am #
Firstly you are still very young to have sex. If he is prepared to wait for you that is great. Most girls make a mistake of having sex early and regret it most of there life. I think the reason why he is avoiding you is that he is confused at the moment, not with you but where he is going in life. Don’t run after him let him do the running.I’m turning 25 this year and the first time i had sex i was 21 and I’m so happy that i waited. It is really sweet that he does things for you, must men at his age don’t even do such things. A 17male has 4 things most of the time going on his head namely.
1) Sex
2) Sport
3) Friends
4) And more sex
So count your lucky starts sweets, looks like you have a keeper!
Michel Replied on 29 Apr 2008 at 6:25 am #
Firstly you are still very young to have sex. If he is prepared to wait for you that is great. Most girls make a mistake of having sex early and regret it most of there life. I think the reason why he is avoiding you is that he is confused at the moment, not with you but where he is going in life. Don’t run after him let him do the running.I’m turning 25 this year and the first time i had sex i was 21 and I’m so happy that i waited. It is really sweet that he does things for you, most men at his age don’t even do such things. A 17male has 4 things most of the time going on his head namely.
1) Sex
2) Sport
3) Friends
4) And more sex
So count your lucky starts sweets, looks like you have a keeper!
nadeesh_garg Replied on 30 Apr 2008 at 10:58 am #
as a guy i think i shud tell u……………..when he was just a friend he used 2 just joke around………he knew that u wud say no………………….now when he’s involved with u………he’s doing the rite thing………….he really does luv u…nd wants u 2 be safe……………i thinku shud hav figured dat out by now
lyrrech Replied on 30 Apr 2008 at 11:18 am #
you should be happy cause he’s not taking advantage.
maybe the first time he had asked you to have sex with him, he doesn’t feel anything for you or just a mere friendship but now, maybe he realized that you’re not that kind of girl who’ll just give in. Keep in mind that he’s doing nice thing to you, so it means you’re important and special and for that it means respect.
just wait for the right time.
Em Replied on 02 May 2008 at 6:45 pm #
there could be two possible things
1. he could be in love wit you or 2. he could be gay
Not avalible Replied on 03 May 2008 at 8:21 pm #
he groaned and ran away? Well, that could be that he is turned on and he ran away because you didnt want to have sex. And its probobaly getting harder for him not to have sex, and you said that you guys could have sex if he wanted to? thats a no no. with sex, it cant be, i guess if you want to, it has to be yes, im ready, lets do it.lol, maybe not like that, but you get the point right? he wants you to want it, he doesnt want to presure you into something that you might regret later on.
Alan Replied on 05 May 2008 at 1:38 pm #
well im 22 and i can tell u that its somthing differet in your country because i live in bolivia and bolivian girls are different, but i think there are 2 things
1 he loves u so much like he says
2 he doesnt love u and he is waiting for the end is just like that black or white wrong or right good luck !!!
Why do u wanna know? Replied on 13 May 2008 at 4:19 pm #
It could be that he just has a tiny umm…. ya. and if not then maybe he is just waiting for the moment when u want it. (and when u guys feel ur in love enough to do it.)
unknown Replied on 18 May 2008 at 12:13 am #
maybe its because you just asssumed that he wanted sex he feels like a pig because to him it seems like you HAVE to give it up to please him.And hes doing the nice things because
he feels guilty and he wont sleepover because he feels like it not respectful becasue the topic of coarse would come up and doesnt want to pressure you.
madi Replied on 27 May 2008 at 5:08 pm #
I don’t think that he is cheating. I think you should ask him if he still feels the same way for you as he did before. Get the truth. Then you will know what to do from there.
ME ^^ Replied on 30 May 2008 at 9:26 pm #
Haha, i’ve been’ to that situtiation ^^. Hes not ready for sex. And he’s doing you nice things that you won’t get so upset that hes not rdy for sex. so hold back, enjoy your life, no worries and you will have sex someday. you’re making sex so big part of relationship, its not.
kecian Replied on 23 Jun 2008 at 10:35 pm #
love is not all about sex…
don’t do anything that can destroy yourself…
KuperHyper Replied on 25 Jun 2008 at 5:39 pm #
Well well, like you said he is every experienced. When he asked and u said “I want to wait till I am in love” maybe he hit him to make him feel different because maybe other girls he had done wants have sex and you are probably different. I definitely would say he’s not cheating. But most important thing you should do is just ASK if he feel the same way as you DO!” sound like he gunna be your keeper.
Let sex wait, lets do love longer!
Nadia..X Replied on 14 Jul 2008 at 6:11 pm #
hey …
maybe hes not cheating on you ..
but you stilll need to no whats goiung on huh?
well ask him ..
if he says no then hes simply not or hes lying
and if you dont trust him
what does that say about your releationship anyway
xxx
trust is a beautiful thing hard too come by though
chooe your words wisely !
xxx
DANIELLE Replied on 23 Jul 2008 at 11:23 am #
He probabally just got excited and didnt want you to be able to tell if you know what i mean. If you are not ready dont offer yourself. I did when i was younger and i didnt even do it again for another year. i didnt really understand the pleasure it gives you until my early adulthood years. dont have sex to keep a guy there are plunty out there. im sure if he does all those nice things for you he really does like you. so just wait so you can chairish your first time
mark Replied on 28 Jul 2008 at 3:25 am #
its not all about sex with me” what does this mean? is he cheating on me?
if he says that n put its into application then its d best thing a girl can get…lol
many times guys only want eligibility..its like ok now i’m eligible to “make l..with her…( “ts ok” what u told him)”so now he knows that u’ve feelings for him n that he’s serious with u
so its the beginnin of a love story , isn’t it? good luck
Katrina Replied on 06 Aug 2008 at 2:58 pm #
To Tell you the truth i think i know whats going on….I think he is really in deep love and is scared to show it like evry other guy.He may be experienced but he probably never loved them.Just talk to him and ask him whats going on…..
torry Replied on 11 Aug 2008 at 5:21 pm #
Just play it cool for about 3 years then start thinking of marrige then…see if you should have sex