Comments on: loving a married man

By: Bad Boy

Bad Boy — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 13:09:15 +0000

hey ….i am facing same….i am married but right now i am in love with another girl she is also 20. we have started our relationship as a friend but after couple of years we have been in love of each other..we both loving each other too much…but i know she can not be marry with me bcz of her family circumstances……..she can not live with me….but i hope and pray to Allah that everything will go well in future..

Dont worry if you have true love you will get it….

but dont take any step which is harmful for your family

i m waiting your reply on my mail id

Regards
Rehan

By: Princess_A

Princess_A — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 11:15:07 +0000

its really hard to break up with your big love, i know, i’ve been there.
i had a relationship to with a married man, and he had not only one child, but two and expacting a third. I really didn’t care at first, untill i saw his pregnant wife. then i realized i was an idiot, coz he wont leave his wife for me.
I knew that if i stayed in my own town, close to him, i couldnt let him go, so i went on a holiday for two months. i didnt call him, mail or respond to anything of his messages or calls. I even didn’t listen to my voicemail, how hard that even was, eventually he stopped calling…
i cried myself to sleep every single night. Even now when i see him, its still hard, coz we both know there was a connexion between us.

i know that its impossible to imagine that you’ll leave him, but it really is the best thing to do.

i hope you make the right decision, and that you’ll become happy in your life

By: butterfly

butterfly — Sun, 31 May 2009 15:39:00 +0000

Dont do it. Walk away now.
If you dont do it now you will have to do it later on in a couple of years time. Think about how hard that will be for you….you will feel torn apart emotionally and spitirually.
Plus you will be older and wounder to yourself why you put up with this situation in the first place?!
You deserve better, much much better. You are young and beautiful. If he really loves you he would let you go.

He got you trapped and dosent want to let go? Its almost like you are a prisioner but you have the Key in your own hands. Its up to you if you stay locked inside for years or months. He will never let you go, even if you turn 28 or 30 years old.

Do you really want to be with a Selfish man?
What about your future? WHAT KIND OF FUTURE WILL YOU HAVE IF YOU CONTINUE IN THIS RELATIONSHIP? What will you get out of it? ask him that question. DONT FOCUS ON THE MOMENT. Think about the future! Can you see yourself with this man in 5 years? or 10 years. Time flies quickly….you must be really careful.

Think about it this way if you were married would you keep a single guy as a lover when you know that you are hurting them?
I have been in this situation for years….belive I know what I am talking about. FInally I made up my mind to let go of my married man. It was hard but worth it.

If you believe in God that is another reason to let go. If you dont let go, then you will end up single for years and you will destroy your selfesteem. You will spend your weekends alone and you will suffer. Yes you will have beautiful moments together but is it really worth if for you? No of course not. Its not worth it at all. This man is in it for himself. I know its hard to believe that but that’s a fact. This type of relationships can last for years and at the end the “other woman” suffers the most, not the man. Let go of him. TRUST ME YOU CAN DO IT. If you tell him now that you are letting him go he will change your mind. 100% guarantee. Dont tell him now. You can be honest but you must play smart. Good luck my dear.

By: geraldine

geraldine — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 03:47:50 +0000

to be in love is natural but you have take charge of it, and be responsible…

go far to that guy… i know yoou can recover your love soon… find perfect man for you… do not stick on that man because whether you like it or not the guy is married..

try to put yourself to his wife… it is not easy for her… please try to understand the feelings of his wife if time will come that she will know that her husband is playing with the other girl..

so as early as possible, get out of that guy….

By: Eve

Eve — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 08:33:38 +0000

Either you drop him or if he is really interested in you ask him to divorce his wife and marry you. If he is truly in love with you why should he be hurting his wife……..ask him to divorce her so that she can lead her life.

By: Belen

Belen — Thu, 12 Mar 2009 07:33:14 +0000

hello

I know what u feel, co’z i experienced that situation before, i cannot live without him, co’z i love him very much, when i went back to my Christian life i undergo in a deep meditation, and i regret all of the thing that ive done, u are very young, u can continue your life without him, even though that its very hard to letting go of your feelings to him, just went back in your spiritual life co’z u are need break and deepest meditation in your life to think very well,”GOD HAVE A BETTER PURPOSE TO U AND IN YOUR LIFE”

By: Jady

Jady — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 13:39:57 +0000

hey.. right now I’m living with a married man.. he is married for 4 yrs and got 1 son. i love him too and he actually met my parents as well as my family members.. i really don’t know how to stop this, it’s just that i love him so much that it came to the point that i almost beg him to stay with me.. well, he loves me too.. the point is??? this relationship we both have is called “STUPIDITY” we must let them go for the sake of the child.. i know it’ll take time but soon you will realize that you made a right decision in letting him go.. that’s love, sacrifice..

By: Mandy

Mandy — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 09:18:50 +0000

First of all, it takes two to cheat so the blame is not all yours so you shouldnt have all that guilt trip inside eventhougt ur hurting a lot of innocent people. Its hard to let him go but time heals all wounds. I agree that once a cheater always a cheater. Watch your back. If he is cheating with you what stops him from cheating with someone else too. Anywayz give it space and time. Keep busy, find hobbies, go out with friends. If he is with his wife still he is not going to leave her. Be smart and rise above people like that. If you really love him set him free if he was meant to be he´ll do the impossible to be with you. Lastly, put yourself in his wive positionand i´m sure you´ll make the right choice

By: naig

naig — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 12:58:28 +0000

hi,

ive expereinced the same as what uve experienced. i know that it’s really hurting letting go of someone u truly love but u have no choice he has a family already. in my part m doing what’s right for us, m letting him go in order to rescue someone else’s burden, sometimes we shoud give up our own happiness for them to make them happy.move on and m sure u’ll get over with him.just like me m almost there..

By: YTTIK

YTTIK — Sat, 08 Nov 2008 12:02:12 +0000

you should move on, forget him! he is not worthy for your love. Don’t let him ruin your life. Love is not all about what we feel but sensation of faith and loyalty.

By: flinx

flinx — Fri, 07 Nov 2008 11:36:41 +0000

hi i am experiencing right now the same problem just like you but what people comments about your situation to the man they called cheaters is just like one of the lyrics of barry manilow in his song somewhere down the road “we have the right love at the wrong time”.im the man they called cheater but why they calling a man who truly in love to in a single woman inspite the man have already build a family?the truth is man is very weak and being weak is really hard.if you really love sumone you need to accept pains and accept his faults.if you know that he loves you why dont you trust him? maybe there will be a time for you to share legally with your bf not now but if you will try to wait for your happiness maybe it will end up a happy ending.

By: JDL

JDL — Fri, 10 Oct 2008 02:58:38 +0000

well, i would really say that what you are doing now is wrong…if you put yourself on his wife shoes, i am sure that it is very hard. and arent you thinking of the possible consequences of this thing that you two are doing? what about his child? you are destroying a FAMILY. are you happy with that? try to think about it!!!!!

By: Chahat

Chahat — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 08:03:36 +0000

hi,m facing same problem as u r.still m w8ing for the right tract,i dont know wht is right or whts wrong.but i decide to die becoz i dont want to ruin his wife /son life and also not able to leave without him so no way i find no suggesstion put any effect in my mind.,may be lot for persons who above comment on ur question they all r right.we need to leave that man.but its very very difficult for us..we r unable to change our mind..wht u all think we r not try to change our mind.we r.but m not find it soo easy..i tried but every thing is in vain,useless.wht can we do..???????? its better to die instead of live..i tell him clearlly i cant adjust with any other man,,so i let him go not from mylife,,i though out myself from his life..agr usse bhi pyar hai mera dukh hai wo aa sakta hai toh aye or else his wish…kisi ek ki toh life barbaad hai hi acha hai,wo nahi toh main…i dont waana live without him….kisi ek ki hi life bach sakti hai…so any other one have any comment…???? kiski life save ki jaye..i will going to die..but his wife have to live for his child,i think she has one hope to live but i dont have anything…where can i go??????

By: Li

Li — Mon, 23 Jun 2008 14:00:43 +0000

You are a skank. I’m sorry but you should have fooled around with a married man.

By: SweetSmile

SweetSmile — Fri, 30 May 2008 18:48:02 +0000

Take it this way, if he’s cheating on his wife with you right now, if you were to be with him later on, he would do the same to you, [ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER] don’t get caught up in the momment;

Think hard; and your heart will guide you through; I’m sure you’ll make the right choice,

By: AmOr

AmOr — Tue, 27 May 2008 06:27:23 +0000

I was in that position before,I got interested with your story coz we really had almost the same story. And the only difference was we jst met here in net,and we are too far to each other thats why we havent that intimate moment like yours. But it still hard to let him go coz i already love him so much. For how many months that i keep on being blind in reality, but one day i woke up and decided to let him go and and live my life without him. I really need to gain alot of courage to do it. But i know i did the right thing,for the very first time in my life I made a decision that makes me proud of my self.

By: marian

marian — Sat, 17 May 2008 21:29:01 +0000

if you’re on your right mind you won’t do that in the first place. We don’t have a shortage of men. So try to look again. Someone who don’t have a family. Someone who is free and someone who is not a coward to cheat on his family. Just think fo their child. I’m sure you’ll get over him. good luck.

By: HafizaSabri

HafizaSabri — Mon, 12 May 2008 08:20:28 +0000

please dont do this as you can never know what circumstances that women will pass through after getting this news its not good if today its she tomorrow it will b eyour turn.

try to understand one women’s feeling after all you have a women heart also…

please find the person who is free who so that u can enjoy ur life more than giving trouble to your self.

By: S.R

S.R — Thu, 01 May 2008 04:36:03 +0000

You should think of it this way, someone will get hurt. Its either gona be you or his wife and kid. Dont be selfish, you’re only 20… Im sure you will meet many people in your life. Its easier said than done but you shouldnt have done this to yourself in the first place. You will always have good memories of him but you must forget him, plus what makes you think he wont cheat on you if he is already cheating on his wife… and not being responsible enough to take care of his family?